Moving with kids and letting them take the lead

Moving with kids is never easy.  We have managed to do 2 International moves and a number of smaller moves in London since we become parents and it does not get easier, I never seem to get it right.  But what the latest move taught me is that kids really do actually want to learn if only us parents would take the stress/ nagging out of it.

I decided that we would have a weeks break from our homeschooling while we moved but my Pink had other plans (that is her sitting at my desk surrounded by boxes doing some maths).



She loved joining in with packing the boxes and driving in the van with her dad to take them to the new house but what really surprised me was that once we got to the new house she very quickly got her “school stuff” out and was drawing pictures, writing notes and reading her readers.  I was not expecting this.  I often have to ask her more than once to do her writing or her readers but yet in the week that I took all the pressure off and was trying to get our new house sorted she did it all by herself.  Makes one think that maybye half the battle is actually just us parents telling the kids what to do instead of letting them do it themselves when they are ready.

Everyday this  week Pink has done something that I would consider school work and everyday this week it has been Pink getting it out and doing it, no asking from me, no direction from me, just Pink wanting to read or Pink wanting to write a letter to her dad, practice some maths or draw a picture etc etc.

In our homeschooling adventure I have tried to follow her lead and do activities based on what she is interested in (eg animals or our latest flower craze) but I have always insisted that we do some basic maths and phonics within these interests.  So I suppose it is part child lead learning, part structured learning.  We have days where she is excited to do her work and days where it is a battle to get her to sit down and do it.  We have days where she seems to spend the whole day doing activity after activity followed by days of barely doing anything but I have always had a basic plan or idea in my head that we need to cover certain things within a certain time frame.  But as we go further along our homeschooling journey I am adjusting the way that we do things and I am noticing that the biggest adjustment is actually the way in which I TRUST my KIDS.  I am learning (I do backslide from time to time) that my kids respond to me trusting them as little people and respecting them and their wants (please do not get me wrong here I do still believe in letting the kids know when they have crossed a line).

From starting out not sure if we should homeschool I know am realising that I am actually the one learning the most, I am learning so much about my kids and the little people that they are already.  I am learning that kids naturally want to learn and explore the world around them and that they will do it even without us adults nagging them.

Another exciting development our move brought was both kids moving into their children’s bedroom.  In our old house we had a mommy and daddy room and a children’s room but both the kids always slept in the mommy and daddy room. I never made a big deal of it as I tried sleep training Pink once when she was 2 years old and both Pink and I ended up miserable.  Pink is a very sensitive, gentle child who still needs lots of help from us to manage her SPD so we never wanted the sleeping arrangements to become an issue.  She needs a good nights sleep to manage with her hyper-senses and for a long time that meant her being able to reach a hand out and know that mommy was there.  The first 2 nights in the new house Pink and Blue slept in the new mommy and daddy room, but once they settled into the new house Pink informed us that she was sleeping in the childrens room and NO ADULTS ALLOWED.  Very chuffed, once again my little girl is showing me that when we stop pushing and let them take the lead they actually get their by themselves when the time is right.  Now if I only I can remember that more often !!!!

About ofamily

Home educating family based in the UK. We try to make learning fun
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6 Responses to Moving with kids and letting them take the lead

  1. lucy76green says:

    Great post – I’ve made a similar discovery myself – that if I ask my kids less then they want to do MORE! 🙂 Mine have yet to brave their own room yet though… Hope you’re getting nicely settled in to your new home.


  2. Hello! It’s lovely to ‘meet’ you although I can’t seem to find your name:) I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this post about your home-education and I love the photo of pink at the desk. I completely agree with your comment about letting the child lead the way and trusting them. I am constantly amazed to find one or both of my boys doing something educational without being prompted. I found the eldest writing about WW2 yesterday having located and read a book about it on the shelf – wonderful.

    I have read around your site this morning (not all I’m only on my first coffee) and noticed that you use Jolly Phonics. We have this range as well as I used it with my eldest years ago and he loved it. My youngest hasn’t been as keen so I have just read to him but I have considered the BOB books and wondered what you thought about them. Do they work? Do your kids enjoy using them?

    I look forward to reading more about your style of home-ed and thank you so much for linking up to #homeedlinkup. I hope to see you again next week!


    • ofamily2014 says:

      Sorry My name is Shelly. Thanks for doing the link up, I love reading about other Homeschoolers and how they do it. I love getting ideas of what has worked and what has not worked. We are doing a mix of Jolly phonics / Bob / some Julia Donaldson readers and a cub reading series (from SA) and that seems to be the key for Pink. She likes the mix and so does not get bored. She likes reading a hard reader and then going back to an easier one. I really liked the BOB readers as beginner readers. We only did the first 3 series and they where great for the 3 / 4 letter words but by the end of the 3rd series Pink wanted something else. There are also a bunch of great free worksheets that you can get to go with the BOB readers which we really enjoyed doing.


      • Lovely to meet you Shelly. IS there any chance that you could be lovely and paste this intro into the comment field over on my blog as well? Im sure everyone will see it here but I’d love to have names in one place as well:) Thanks so much for being a part of this.


  3. frogotter says:

    What a great post.
    We’re semistructured too. I am beginning to realise that wonderful things happen when I trust the kids!
    But your story really inspires me. Children do want to learn.


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